What are Love Languages?
Gary Chapman introduced the idea of “love languages” in 1992, suggesting that relationship stress happens because partners express love in different ways. To combat this and effectively communicate, each person should learn their partner’s love language. These include words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Chapman expressed that although people have different preferences, all five are important.
Affirmation
Men AND women want to feel appreciated and the best way to do this is through verbal communication. Compliment your partner, using kind words highlighting their strengths, and what they do to make them feel loved, especially in front of others.
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Quality time
Try to give your partner your undivided attention. This means that you and your partner are doing something together while fully focusing on each other. This creates a sense of togetherness. This can include doing activities together or having quality conversation involving sharing each other’s experiences, thoughts, feelings, and desires without interruption and in a sympathetic tone. Quality conversation is different from words of affirmation. Click to find a list of hobbies for men!
Gifts
Gift giving is a great way to express love across many cultures and a great way to show that you’re invested in your relationship. Gifts doesn’t mean you have to spend money though; instead try to find something that shows you know who you’re with. Ladies, this means gifts for your partners as well. Click to learn what every man should own!
Acts of service
Even if you don’t want to, do things you know your partner would like you to do with a positive energy. This can include simple things like household chores, engaging in activities that interest your partner, and much more. If you don’t know what your partner wants from you, ask. Remember that open communication is key.
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Physical Touch
Physical touch is an important way to communicate love. This includes touching, hugging, holding hands, kissing, or sexual acts. Remember to learn what kind is wanted and if you don’t know, ask.
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